Last week’s Unicef report on children’s wellbeing made sombre reading, showing Britain at the bottom of a league table of 21 industrialised nations. Ironically and sadly, it was published in a week when the third fatal shooting of a teenager in South London demonstrated just how bad things can get when the fabric of family life breaks down.
The report’s findings will be analysed for a long time, but already commentators are coming forward with varying theories as to why the UK’s young people experience, both subjectively and objective, the lowest levels of wellbeing – or, put more starkly, the highest levels of unhappiness – in the developed world.
I believe a key pointer to the core of the problem is the section of the report headed “Young People’s Family and Peer Relationships”. Here, the UK, by a very long chalk indeed, achieved the lowest ranking overall.
There is no doubt that the pattern of family life has changed over recent years. Many more children are brought up by single parents, where financial and work pressures are magnified. But even in traditional two-parent households, increasing affluence has brought its own problems. Children often spend hours alone in their bedrooms with their PlayStations; microwave cookery means that families frequently eat their meals apart. People don’t talk to one another as much as they used to.
Whatever the cause of what is unarguably a crisis, it has to be addressed. Government – of whatever political colour – must take the lead. Government policy must encourage family life and the taking of responsibility for one’s own children. Too many children who featured in the Unicef report said that their parents “were not there for them when they needed them” or that they “did not make them feel loved and cared for”.
Tellingly, the report also cited a relatively high percentage of young people who did not regularly eat their main meal of the day with their families. The importance of eating together was highlighted to me yesterday evening, when I attended a supper at St Paul’s church hall, Colwyn Bay. The event was hugely over-subscribed and more than 100 people sat down together, to enjoy an excellent meal and entertainment.
Most importantly, we chatted and we laughed; people of at least three generations, from toddlers to octogenarians, in a hubbub that filled the hall. We enjoyed just being together, and for that reason as much as any other, the evening was an enormous success.